Helpful Tips: Holidays With Your Children's Grandparents Stressful?
Having Realistic Expectations
Putting Issues Aside
- Trying to stay in a positive frame of mind
- Focusing on the problem and working toward a solution that is acceptable to you and others
- Giving the other person a chance to save face—This means that you are giving your in-law the chance to keep his view of himself intact so that he does not feel like his self-image is being damaged. It also means not embarrassing him in front of others.
Taking Tips to Heart
- Remember that you can always break from the routine. Maybe now is the time to start a new family tradition. If you usually go to your in-laws for dinner, you may want to have dinner at a restaurant or gather at your house for dessert.
- Ask your spouse for help with holiday activities, like shopping and decorating the house. Your children can also contribute during this busy time. You do not need to do everything on your own.
- Keep the regular routines in place. Be sure that you and your family are eating healthy foods and getting plenty of sleep. You will need the energy to enjoy the season.
- Try to look past the flaws. No one is perfect, and no situation is perfect. Work to try to accept your family and circumstances for who and what they are. This will help you to have a more realistic and understanding outlook.
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